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What I Wish for My Grandchildren

By on February 24, 2016 in Uncategorized with No Comments

When I was giving the “speech” at my youngest son’s family dinner the evening before his wedding I said, “Every parent’s wish is that their children grow up to be good people, that they meet that special person with whom they can share their life with, and have a life filled with love, joy, and respect. As I stand here tonight, I feel a sense of pride. I am proud of my son and I am proud and humbled by the union that will take place tomorrow between two good people.”

There was more, but this is the essence of what I said and felt that night. And while I said this at my youngest son’s wedding, I felt the same thought at each of my children’s weddings.

Today, I have the privilege of being the grandpa to six grandchildren. And as I think of what I wish for them, I think about what I said at my son’s wedding. But I also think about four characteristics that I hope they will develop. I call these the four C’s to becoming a good person.

The four C’s are: Caring, Competence, Confidence, and Courage.

Caring: Children should learn what it means to care: about other people, their environment, righting injustices. They should learn by how we behave not by what we say. Society is being torn apart by prejudice and insensitivity. People who care can make an important and positive difference in the world.

Competence: Every child should be encouraged and allowed to develop their unique competence. They will initially meander through various interests, sometimes straining our patience. But they are exploring and our role is to support this time of exploration. As they hone in on their interests, we need to remind them, gently, that they become better through trial and error and practice.

Confidence: Confidence is built through support and encouragement. Criticism, put downs, making fun of their efforts don’t build confidence, it erodes confidence. A constant barrage of criticism (or trying to “toughen them up”) makes them question themselves and can lead to what is called learned helplessness.

Courage: Children need to have courage: courage to speak up, courage to try new things, courage to pursue their dreams. Courage is supported by caring, competence and confidence.

Our role is that of a compassionate guide.

As we help our grandchildren develop their Four C’s, we are helping them develop into good people. And good people will make a positive difference in the world.

And what more can we ask?

 

 

 

 

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